Still, it can be intimidating to re-enter the world of dating.Need a little encouragement before you take that plunge? It sounds like trite advice, but it’s worth following: Don’t date until you’re ready to date. If you’re serious about finding love again, make sure you understand where you are in the healing process.You’ll need their shoulders to cry on, and their wisdom and listening ears to help you navigate this exciting new chapter. With the life changes you’ve gone through, make sure you’re taking the time to focus on you. Dress in a way that makes you feel good about what you see in the mirror.Switch up your daily routine so you’re not stuck in past patterns and ruts by default, and choose to surround yourself with the people and things that inspire you.Stay positive, embrace the adventure, expect a few disappointments, and see your life as an unfolding story, one that will be worth telling. Keep an open mind, take a few deeps breaths, and go easy on yourself.If you realize, mid-date, that you’re not ready to date, you can give yourself more time before pursuing anything further.In the intervening 19 years, the Internet had opened up a whole new world, and Matty-lad was about to enter it.
Things that weren't important before or were negotiable suddenly are important or non-negotiable.
So let yourself shine."Dating and empowerment coach Laurel House agrees, suggesting that you need to get comfortable being alone as well.
"You don't need to feel like you 'should' be out doing things," she says.
I needed someone who would be there to help pick up the pieces when stuff went completely sideways.
It made me realize that I was allowed to be picky, but by the same token, that I should meet all sorts of different people to explore the world out there.
Divorce is not easy, but the challenges in life are what cause us to grow.